The other day her phone call sent me to the bottom of the darkness. My heart ached for her, and wanted to reach through the phone and give her hug. I tried with my words to keep her calm, to let her know she was loved, and to let her know she is never alone. [...]
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Crying Music and Happy Faces
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Lyrics, Mothers, Music, Non-Offending Parent, Panic, Resiliency, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, childhood sexual abuse, dads, depression, family, guilt, healing, love, memories, mental health, molestation, understanding, tagged angel, Anger, Answer, Anxiety, Belief, childhood memories, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, depression, Emotions, Enablers, Evanescence, family, Fear, guilt, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, molestation, Mothers, My Immortal, Non-Offending Parent, Resiliency, Sarah MacLachlan, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim on October 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Stirring Up the Muck…
Posted in Anxiety, Belief, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Grandmothers, Happiness, Incest, Justification, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Remember, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, empathy, family, grandchildren, granddaughters, guilt, healing, memories, mental health, molestation, taking sides, understanding, tagged Anxiety, Belief, childhood sexual abuse, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Emotions, Enablers, family, Fear, healing, Incest, Life Stories, memories, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, Survivors, taking sides, Trust, Victim on July 31, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I cannot believe she said it. No, I guess I can believe it. A comment made without thought to what was being said… that is what she does.
Who is she? My ex-mother-in-law. What did she say? She asked my middle daughter if my youngest daughter (her little sister) still says her dad molested her. When [...]
Helpful Site for Survivors of Sexual Abuse…
Posted in Belief, Bibliotherapy, Books, Choices, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Justification, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Non-Offending Parent, Panic, Rape, Remember, Resiliency, Sexual Abuse, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, control, denial, depression, empathy, false memory, family, guilt, healing, humankind, love, memories, mental health, molestation, taking sides, understanding, tagged childhood sexual abuse, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, Fear, guilt, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, molestation, Rape, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Trust, Victim on May 30, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
I just found the site “Let Go…Let Peace Come In Foundation.” It is for adult survivors of sexual abuse. I did not know it existed. A great resource for anyone whose life has been touched by sexual abuse in anyway…
Old Hurts: Crying and Caring
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Remember, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Suicide, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, control, dads, denial, depression, empathy, family, grandchildren, guilt, healing, love, memories, mental health, molestation, taking sides, understanding, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood memories, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Emotions, Enablers, family, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, Surviving, taking sides, Trust, Victim on December 12, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
The fight started again. It all started with that e-mail and phone call that I mentioned in my post “Breaking to Pieces.” It continued on Thanksgiving day as we tried to celebrate our families.
We had breakfast at our house because my youngest daughter had to work the afternoon shift. She arrived with her boyfriend and [...]
Guilt…
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, dads, denial, depression, family, guilt, healing, memories, religion, sin, taking sides, tagged Add new tag, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, control, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Enablers, family, Fear, guilt, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Sexual Abuse, sin on May 4, 2008 | 2 Comments »
He was a master of emotions. He doled out fear and anger like everyday water. I thought I was the only one who suffered from his emotional abuse, but now see the damage left on my daughters. The guilt with this recognition fills my soul as I realize I failed to protect them from his [...]
Seeing Beauty and Joy: Not Blame/Justification
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, family, love, memories, religion, sin, tagged Anger, Anxiety, ballet, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, Enablers, family, Incest, Life Stories, love, lust, memories, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, reiliency, religion, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, sin, Survivors, Victim on April 29, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Typing an e-mail to my middle daughter it hits me. Tears fill my eyes as I think of my young granddaughter who is getting ready for her first ballet recital. I am so proud of her, but I am even prouder of my daughter who sees the beauty and importance of dance. She lets my granddaughter [...]
The Void: Scars of the Past
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, denial, depression, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, Enablers, family, Fear, Hope, Incest, life stoires, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, scars, Secrets, Suicide, Victim on April 28, 2008 | 3 Comments »
She came over this weekend to get some paperwork. The visit went well and we reminisced through pictures and items stored in the garage. She left with special toys that she loved and photos of her with her great grandparents (my paternal grandparents). I enjoyed having her home, but there was a distance between us–an [...]
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This blog is the writings of a mother who finds out from her 23 year old daughter, that she was molested (from age 7 to age 11 or 12) by her dad and was told "Not to tell, especially not to tell your Mom." My heart aches and within this blog, and I hope to start a dialogue with other mothers who have gone through the same thing...Archives
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