I am still hanging in there. Not a day goes by that I do not think of all that takes place. Whenever my cell phone rings and I see the number of my daughter or her boyfriend, I instantly worry. So far though, the calls have been one of good nature and a wanting to [...]
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Sad, But True: We Are Not Alone
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Belief, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Justification, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Panic, Rape, Remember, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, control, dads, denial, depression, family, guilt, healing, love, memories, mental health, molestation, taking sides, understanding, tagged Anxiety, childhood memories, childhood sexual abuse, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, family, Fear, guilt, healing, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Trust, Victim on February 11, 2009 | 1 Comment »
I Am
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 22, 2008 | 4 Comments »
I am the mother of a child who was sexually abused by her own dad.
I am the ex-wife of the man who not only molested his daughter, but escaped from any consequences, because he kept her quite for all these years. Now it is too late according to the law.
I am the non-offending parent. A [...]
Justification and Excuses Given for Sexual Abuse
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 4, 2008 | 3 Comments »
There are so many of them, that it is hard to know where to start. You hear them and you shake your head while fighting the urge to shake the person who is saying them. What are they? They are justifications or excuses as to why an adult molests/sexually abuses a child. They are justifications [...]
Flashes:Small Pieces in a Haunting Nightmare
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, resilliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 1, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Pictures and memories flash in my mind as I try to recall and piece together the past. With each one I try and attach a year or school age for my daughters and what we were doing. In my purse I carry a journal and have started a time line of life with my three [...]
Changes: Secrets Under the Paint
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Art, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, Art, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, resillency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on March 24, 2008 | 2 Comments »
The panic set in along with the crushing push for changes. It started during November and continues to push constantly at me. It started with the dishes in the cupboard. The ones we divided up when we got divorced. Keeping them reminded me of him and what he did to his own daughter. We bought [...]
Together: Is it a Dream?
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, resilliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, sucicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on March 19, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
When I started this blog, my life had been shattered. I had searched for blogs from other mothers who like me learned when their child was an adult, that the dad molested them when the child was younger. The revelation of the secret. I had searched for research and support groups for mothers like myself, [...]
Perspective: New Future and Haunting Past
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, rape resilliencey, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, surviviors, taking sides, Victim on March 17, 2008 | 2 Comments »
As time passes, new thought and views come into perspective. She wanted me to call her more and keep in touch more. So, after a weekend of being busy, I called and we had a great, quick chat. The tension from the session had dissipated and an even ground once again seemed a reality.
Since the [...]
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This blog is the writings of a mother who finds out from her 23 year old daughter, that she was molested (from age 7 to age 11 or 12) by her dad and was told "Not to tell, especially not to tell your Mom." My heart aches and within this blog, and I hope to start a dialogue with other mothers who have gone through the same thing...Archives
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