I cannot believe she said it. No, I guess I can believe it. A comment made without thought to what was being said… that is what she does.
Who is she? My ex-mother-in-law. What did she say? She asked my middle daughter if my youngest daughter (her little sister) still says her dad molested her. When [...]
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Stirring Up the Muck…
Posted in Anxiety, Belief, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Grandmothers, Happiness, Incest, Justification, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Remember, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, empathy, family, grandchildren, granddaughters, guilt, healing, memories, mental health, molestation, taking sides, understanding, tagged Anxiety, Belief, childhood sexual abuse, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Emotions, Enablers, family, Fear, healing, Incest, Life Stories, memories, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, Survivors, taking sides, Trust, Victim on July 31, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
Mother’s Day: Reflect and Hope
Posted in Anxiety, Belief, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Faith, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mother's Day, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Remember, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, dads, denial, depression, family, healing, love, memories, molestation, religion, sin, taking sides, understanding, tagged Belief, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, Faith, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, molestation, Mother's Day, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, reflections, religion, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, survivor, Survivors, taking sides, Trust, Victim on May 29, 2009 | Leave a Comment »
This Mother’s Day held several surprises. Days before it arrived, I received cards and photos from my middle daughter. The words written, touched my heart. Then on the Thursday before, I received a text from my youngest about getting together on Sunday for an early lunch. I met with her and we had a lovely [...]
No More Secrets
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Belief, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Justification, Keeping Secrets, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Remember, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Survivors, Trust, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, dads, denial, empathy, family, guilt, healing, love, memories, mental health, molestation, religion, taking sides, understanding, tagged Anger, Anxiety, Belief, childhood memories, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, control, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, family, Fear, healing, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on January 2, 2009 | 2 Comments »
It is a new year and there will not be any more secrets. I am planning on divulging to my two oldest daughters more details that connect my ex-husband to the abuse of my youngest daughter. In the beginning I told them some of the connections and stated these connections provided enough facts to validate [...]
Update: Time and Sharing Helps
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Losing Innocence, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Panic, Rape, Remember, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Siblings, Sisters, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, cutting, dads, denial, depression, family, grandchildren, guilt, healing, love, memories, molestation, religion, sin, taking sides, understanding, tagged balance, Belief, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, families, grandchildren, healing, helping, Incest, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Sexual Abuse, sharing, Siblings, sinner, Sisters, Surviving, time on October 27, 2008 | 1 Comment »
It has been a year and so it seems a story update is needed. We made it through the year, but still the battle is not over. A lot has taken place and only a few things have changed. Here is an update on our story.
My daughter changed therapists and stopped taking the medication. This [...]
Days Ticking Like Bombs
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Faith, Fear, Hope, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Panic, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Sisters, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, cutting, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, guilt, healing, love, memories, molestation, religion, sin, taking sides, understanding, tagged childhood sexual abuse, church of Christ, cutting, dads, Daughters, denial, family, memory, molestation, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Sexual Abuse, Suicide on September 22, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
The days are ticking like bombs, leading up to the day that marks the one year anniversary of her attempted suicide and the revelation. The bombs go off inside my head as flashes of images of finding her laying on the floor with gashes on her arms. Emotional bombs take hold and choke the life [...]
Life is a Denial
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Faith, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, denial, depression, family, guilt, healing, love, memories, religion, sin, taking sides, tagged believers, betrayal, bible, biblical, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, Faith, godly, Incest, Mothers, Rape, reality, Sexual Abuse, sin, submissive wife on May 24, 2008 | 3 Comments »
He lives his life as if nothing has changed, as if life is grand. During the week, he gets up every morning, goes to work, works all day as an engineer and then comes home to his new wife. On Wednesday nights, he attends bible class. On Sunday, he teaches bible classes, participates at worship, [...]
Guilt…
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, control, dads, denial, depression, family, guilt, healing, memories, religion, sin, taking sides, tagged Add new tag, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, control, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Enablers, family, Fear, guilt, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Sexual Abuse, sin on May 4, 2008 | 2 Comments »
He was a master of emotions. He doled out fear and anger like everyday water. I thought I was the only one who suffered from his emotional abuse, but now see the damage left on my daughters. The guilt with this recognition fills my soul as I realize I failed to protect them from his [...]
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This blog is the writings of a mother who finds out from her 23 year old daughter, that she was molested (from age 7 to age 11 or 12) by her dad and was told "Not to tell, especially not to tell your Mom." My heart aches and within this blog, and I hope to start a dialogue with other mothers who have gone through the same thing...Archives
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