Typing an e-mail to my middle daughter it hits me. Tears fill my eyes as I think of my young granddaughter who is getting ready for her first ballet recital. I am so proud of her, but I am even prouder of my daughter who sees the beauty and importance of dance. She lets my granddaughter [...]
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Seeing Beauty and Joy: Not Blame/Justification
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Incest, Justification, Life Stories, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, family, love, memories, religion, sin, tagged Anger, Anxiety, ballet, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, Enablers, family, Incest, Life Stories, love, lust, memories, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, reiliency, religion, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, sin, Survivors, Victim on April 29, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
The Void: Scars of the Past
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, denial, depression, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, Emotions, Enablers, family, Fear, Hope, Incest, life stoires, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, scars, Secrets, Suicide, Victim on April 28, 2008 | 3 Comments »
She came over this weekend to get some paperwork. The visit went well and we reminisced through pictures and items stored in the garage. She left with special toys that she loved and photos of her with her great grandparents (my paternal grandparents). I enjoyed having her home, but there was a distance between us–an [...]
I Am
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, church, church of Christ, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, church, church of Christ, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 22, 2008 | 4 Comments »
I am the mother of a child who was sexually abused by her own dad.
I am the ex-wife of the man who not only molested his daughter, but escaped from any consequences, because he kept her quite for all these years. Now it is too late according to the law.
I am the non-offending parent. A [...]
Childhood Sexual Abuse: Telling and Sharing of Life Stories
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, healing, Hope, inces, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 18, 2008 | 8 Comments »
Each moment is a breath and each day is a step towards healing. Struggling to survive and handle the tragedy plunged upon us. As I read the recent comments by other mothers who like me bear the ever gaping wound of knowing our daughters were abused, I am deeply touched. Your stories provide support and they help let [...]
A New Kind of Melancholy
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Emotions, Fear, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Sexual Abuse, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, family, healing, memories, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Emotions, family, Fear, healing, Incest, Life Stories, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 14, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Numbness creeps into my reality as I work on the everyday reality of living and functioning. For short periods I can put away the tragedy of the sexual abuse of my daughter, but it never stays away for long. I try and keep myself busy, but eventually it rears it head when I am least [...]
Justification and Excuses Given for Sexual Abuse
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 4, 2008 | 3 Comments »
There are so many of them, that it is hard to know where to start. You hear them and you shake your head while fighting the urge to shake the person who is saying them. What are they? They are justifications or excuses as to why an adult molests/sexually abuses a child. They are justifications [...]
Flashes:Small Pieces in a Haunting Nightmare
Posted in Anger, Anxiety, Choices, Daughters, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, Fear, Happiness, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, Resiliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, Victim, childhood sexual abuse, dads, denial, depression, false memory, family, healing, love, memories, religion, taking sides, tagged Anger, Anxiety, childhood sexual abuse, Choices, dads, Daughters, denial, depression, Divorce, Emotions, Enablers, false memory, family, Fear, Happiness, healing, Hope, Incest, Life Stories, love, memories, Mothers, Non-Offending Parent, Rape, religion, resilliency, Secrets, Sexual Abuse, Suicide, Survivors, taking sides, Victim on April 1, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Pictures and memories flash in my mind as I try to recall and piece together the past. With each one I try and attach a year or school age for my daughters and what we were doing. In my purse I carry a journal and have started a time line of life with my three [...]
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This blog is the writings of a mother who finds out from her 23 year old daughter, that she was molested (from age 7 to age 11 or 12) by her dad and was told "Not to tell, especially not to tell your Mom." My heart aches and within this blog, and I hope to start a dialogue with other mothers who have gone through the same thing...Archives
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